May, 2016 - Women Tower Foundation (Tower FM)

Self Confidence Among African Women

eby neby
31 May 2016
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The Effects Adopting Western Life Style Has On Black Women. It is indeed very saddening, disgusting & annoying to see black women imitating every dame thing the western world does. It’s in the bid to emulate everything they do that has made an average black African woman lout there to not only abandon our Culture & Traditions on how African black woman should live & comport themselves,but also has equally threw caution,dignity,pride & virtue into the dust bin all because of Western adulterated ways & norms of life/living. Today we see black women bleaching & toning their skin,pumping of lips,boobs/bottom & wearing of fake hair of which almost all black women of today are guilty of. It is said that when evil has been allowed for a long time,it becomes tradition,norms & part of life of a society which can never be erased or wiped out ever again. It is also an eye sour to see nor hear an African black woman going for surgery in order to enlarge either her boobs,bottom or lips; We have been endowed with natural beauty,grace & virtue & therefore do not need to emulate anything from the Western people at all,rather they should be d ones emulating us. It is a high time we stop enriching them by buying their Toning cosmetics products to change our original God given color/complexion which the Western world pay heavily to get by burning their skin during Summer. Most times I have heard & seen black women say they are going for Summer holidays in Western World,please we should stop fooling ourselves before these people,why go for Summer holiday in the Western world when we have more than enough Sun in African. If u want to go for a holiday in d Western world,please go for Winter holiday & not Summer, ok?. Conclusively,I will say there are more disadvantages in emulating whatever the Western people do,because they do their things according to their weather,texture of their skin & environment. Therefore I implore us to stop the boobs,lips & bottom enlargement,we should also stop bleaching our skins because it prolong use on our body can contribute to premature aging of our skin,(2)Increase risk of skin cancer from sun exposure.(3)The steroids in some skin lighteners may increase risk for skin infections,skin thinning,acne & poor wound healing.(4)The hydroquinine may also cause incurable skin discoloration known as ochronosis. For those of us that have joined the train of Breast enlargement either through pills or injections,i would want us to know that Breast enlargement pills contains a proprietary blend of ingredients that are only specific to the manufacturers, With each ingredient comes the potential side effect. Breast enlargement may also be an unintended side effect of certain prescription drugs like estrogen,birth control pills & antidepressants. Which also point out that no research of any kind have shown that natural breast enhancement supplement have ever shown the same result. When or if you review the ingredients in any breast enlargement pills that you take or intend to take & identify their individual side effect;this is why you are always advised to consult your doctor before taking any breast enhancement drugs or pills. Note that when you enlarge your breast,you expose yourselves to breast cancer easily.

Njiribeako Chinyere

(WTF)

I AM A SURVIVOR

eby neby
28 May 2016
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Black Power Hands got sore from the burn of the hot coals. It sends a sharp stimulus to the brain; the body withdraws and never wants to give a try any more. The burning passion to still make it work and live my dream wouldn’t let me rest. My mind gets tortured of wanting to try again. I keep on getting burnt but had no peace in me to give up. I took a deep breath, take few steps back and kept watch. I couldn’t still see a thing. I sat down, filled with fury. There’s no me without living real me. There must be a way out. I was filled with sorrow. My heart was heavy. The burden on my shoulder is weighing me down. I stretched my hand but no one, no one to take it. No one to stand with me till the end of time. What a mystery! Mystery of being seen as an object than the subject of transformation”. I closed my eyes, but it was filled with reflection of betrayal, disappointments, pains, deceits, failures, torture, neglects….. Setbacks. Yea….I couldn’t contain it; with a loud scream I opened my eyes. My lips trembling and my hands shaking. Then there’s this sweet voice, calm and it whispers. …

No regrets. No regrets… you never failed. Where you are is far! Far! Better than where you’re coming from. You already have direction; you’re on the right path. Where you’re going will be far better than where you’re coming from. You’re in charge. Only you have the power to make it happen. …. Make it happen… make it happen!

This sounds also like a mystery. I have tried, and tried, and tried… still trying. I hardly move a feet. I’ve crawled. I still fail. Still pondering on this” There came a sharp flash light on my face, almost setting me blind. I covered my face with my burnt palms. They still hurt.

I can’t do this any more! Free me! I screamed

Free yourself! This voice whispered silently. You’ve come a long way to give up. It’s in your hands to make it work. Stop depending on anyone. Even your shadow leaves you in the dark. Learn to push without look back. If you keep counting your steps you might not get to your destination.

Life is a journey; there must be bus stops, road blocks, road bumps, car break down, tire burst, many times accidents. You’re a survivor! Even while drowning, keep your head above the water level…

My energy begin to fill me as I hear these words, I feel the cracking of my broken bones, I can hear its sounds, I pulled myself up and stood on my feet, I forgot the pains from the my burnt palms. I screamed so loud… I AM A SURVIVOR!

I bent once more and pulled the heavy burning coal, away to make a pass to my tilling. I tilled the ground so fast and energetically, I took my mind away from the pains and focused on my mission. I worked tirelessly. Lo and behold, there lies the gold I’ve been searching for, behind it laid the emerald, the precious stone. I picked up and laughed out loud, with tingly tears at the corner of my eyes. I cling it tight on myself and shed tears amidst laughter. Tears of victory and accomplishment”

I heard claps and shouts of victory behind me, surprisingly I turned to the back, and I can’t believe the people amongst the crowd cheering me up. Exactly the ones that tried to make my journey unsuccessful and told me I can’t make it. Ones who abandoned me when it seems to them I’m a liability and of no value” People who took advantage of my situation”

Ignore them and walk away’ this strange voice said.

Exactly! I replied.

I walked to them with a squeezed face, zero smiles. Pride” They were filled with shame and put their head down, scared of what might befall them. Their faces masked with guilt of their actions towards me. I halted before them, examine these faces and I threw my hands open and let them fill it. I burst into laughter and hugged them. I was so happy they came around. They were noise once again. I received praises and prayers.

I thanked them whole heartedly. They are the reason why I am me today. If a seed doesn’t die, it can never bear forth fruit. No pain no gain. If you never lacked something, you’ll never appreciate it. It’s through the pains of labor, that an offspring comes forth. I wouldn’t have been me without critics. I wouldn’t have learnt to walk alone if I was not abandoned on the way. I wouldn’t have recognized victory without failure.

Though toucheth my heart, and filled with inspirations.

Thou guideth my path and led me to my destination

Though speaketh to me in dreams, and filled my ears with words to unleash

Though toucheth my hand and blessed thee, and it was used tactfully and technically, and through it messages was passed

Let thou keep directing me for thy journey is still far!

You can be a survivor, only if though listens to thy God inside of you and not men around you

Eby Asogwa.

(WTF)

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eby neby
07 May 2016
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Managing hurtful or stressful situations.

Situations tends to be very confusing and complicated handling many times. In these or similar situations, we’re mostly limited with time or crippled emotions to think and act fast.

Many also believe that it’s in critical situations that you know whom a person truely is.

Many of us loose concentration or hold of our emotions when hurtful situations call in. Sometimes, we behave foolishly, act excessively, or still do nothing when we are expected to do something.

Let’s bear this in mind, we never know what might happen in our lives. It mightbe foreseen but many times too, things are not what it seems to be making us most times reluctant to act.

But then also, most times experiences makes us know better and see ahead of time which makes us prepared ahead of time.

Either ways, no one knows it better. We are only human seeking for perfection.

Let’s not blame ourselves when we do not do things the proper way. The road to success is always under construction, meaning, there are always areas of our lives that we keep improving on as the day goes by.

But there are few things we can learn and make part of our daily life activities. This will also help us even in we find ourselves in the face of complicated situations that needs immediate response:

In whatever situation, no matter how hard it seems, how hurtful and surprising it can be, let’s be watchful and very careful with the words we use. Avoid using hurtful or abusive words, or elongating your points. It makes it loose taste and also devalues you too. It’s always important and advisable to be calm and if possible not say a thing. It’s not easy especially at that point you really want to pour out your heart but it makes you feel better afterwards that you have nothing to regret. Many times when we speak while angry it makes it easier for the other person to know what you’re aiming at. Being quiet puts them in confusion and scared of what your actions might be afterwards.

I’ve seen few people walk out of situation that they were expected to pull down the roof. Isn’t that maturity? Yes it is and not foolishness at all. This also keeps your oppressor or enemies in the dark. We should always know when to tussle power around or try to proove a point and when the best thing to do is walk away gently. That makes you “the man”.

Do not act while you’re angry. To be angry is easy but that’s what differentiates “a boy from a man”, a child from an adult”,. You can never know how grown and wise you are untill you’re faced with tackling unexpected issues. Taking charge of your emotions defines the best part of you.

Why do we go about complaining or discussing our problems. Most people we tell do not care! That is the gospel truth.

Listen, we are in a busy world where everyone has different problems to solve, bringing your too would be a burden. Learn to face your problems and deal with it than dragging unimportant people along. At the tail end, you’ll find out that no solution came.

Finally, do not brag or ulter devaluing words about someone you still care about when you know deep down inside of you, you still want to hold on.

No matter how deeply hurt you are. Do not brag about your contribution into the life of someone you still care about. Do not make him/her feel less valuef. Don’t go about exposing what supposedly ought to be you both secret to people around just because he acted selfishly.

If it gets to the person’s ear, right or wrong, he might act worse to you and never come back even when he initially wanted to. You become heartbroken right? Yes, you will because you expected him to come apologising or turn a new leaf, instead he walked away.

Your over reaction caused it.

An adage said. ” i knew i was matured when i released every situation doesn’t need reaction. Sometimes you need to leave people to do things they do”.

I so much believe in that.

In conclusion. Let’s face situations maturedly. It defines us. Sometimes we loose our respect trying to make a point especially to someone who no longer cares about you. Don’t feel sorry for yourself for giving people chance to offend you, rather feel sorry for them for misusing the opportunity given to them by giving up on someone who won’t give up on them. Life goes on. Be happy. It irritates your offenders. PEACE!

Eby Asogwa

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