Managing hurtful or stressful situations.
Situations tends to be very confusing and complicated handling many times. In these or similar situations, we’re mostly limited with time or crippled emotions to think and act fast.
Many also believe that it’s in critical situations that you know whom a person truely is.
Many of us loose concentration or hold of our emotions when hurtful situations call in. Sometimes, we behave foolishly, act excessively, or still do nothing when we are expected to do something.
Let’s bear this in mind, we never know what might happen in our lives. It mightbe foreseen but many times too, things are not what it seems to be making us most times reluctant to act.
But then also, most times experiences makes us know better and see ahead of time which makes us prepared ahead of time.
Either ways, no one knows it better. We are only human seeking for perfection.
Let’s not blame ourselves when we do not do things the proper way. The road to success is always under construction, meaning, there are always areas of our lives that we keep improving on as the day goes by.
But there are few things we can learn and make part of our daily life activities. This will also help us even in we find ourselves in the face of complicated situations that needs immediate response:
In whatever situation, no matter how hard it seems, how hurtful and surprising it can be, let’s be watchful and very careful with the words we use. Avoid using hurtful or abusive words, or elongating your points. It makes it loose taste and also devalues you too. It’s always important and advisable to be calm and if possible not say a thing. It’s not easy especially at that point you really want to pour out your heart but it makes you feel better afterwards that you have nothing to regret. Many times when we speak while angry it makes it easier for the other person to know what you’re aiming at. Being quiet puts them in confusion and scared of what your actions might be afterwards.
I’ve seen few people walk out of situation that they were expected to pull down the roof. Isn’t that maturity? Yes it is and not foolishness at all. This also keeps your oppressor or enemies in the dark. We should always know when to tussle power around or try to proove a point and when the best thing to do is walk away gently. That makes you “the man”.
Do not act while you’re angry. To be angry is easy but that’s what differentiates “a boy from a man”, a child from an adult”,. You can never know how grown and wise you are untill you’re faced with tackling unexpected issues. Taking charge of your emotions defines the best part of you.
Why do we go about complaining or discussing our problems. Most people we tell do not care! That is the gospel truth.
Listen, we are in a busy world where everyone has different problems to solve, bringing your too would be a burden. Learn to face your problems and deal with it than dragging unimportant people along. At the tail end, you’ll find out that no solution came.
Finally, do not brag or ulter devaluing words about someone you still care about when you know deep down inside of you, you still want to hold on.
No matter how deeply hurt you are. Do not brag about your contribution into the life of someone you still care about. Do not make him/her feel less valuef. Don’t go about exposing what supposedly ought to be you both secret to people around just because he acted selfishly.
If it gets to the person’s ear, right or wrong, he might act worse to you and never come back even when he initially wanted to. You become heartbroken right? Yes, you will because you expected him to come apologising or turn a new leaf, instead he walked away.
Your over reaction caused it.
An adage said. ” i knew i was matured when i released every situation doesn’t need reaction. Sometimes you need to leave people to do things they do”.
I so much believe in that.
In conclusion. Let’s face situations maturedly. It defines us. Sometimes we loose our respect trying to make a point especially to someone who no longer cares about you. Don’t feel sorry for yourself for giving people chance to offend you, rather feel sorry for them for misusing the opportunity given to them by giving up on someone who won’t give up on them. Life goes on. Be happy. It irritates your offenders. PEACE!
Eby Asogwa
(for WTF)
